Regular readers of our prattle may have noticed a drop off in the amount of offerings being posted of late, or possibly detected a slight air of distraction.
The truth is that the Homestead has been working to adjust to an external, fundamental, familial change; a shift in roles that has left us floundering for direction and struggling to do “right”.
28 thoughts on “Reality Bites”
What can I say, I am so very, very sorry. It is a dreadful thing to happen to someone you love so much, lots and lots of sympathy to all the family.
Thank you for your kind words.
This has brought a tear to my eye. Physical frailty is one thing with parents, but mental frailty is such a challenge. I’m glad you are getting external support, but really the difficulty is knowing how best to deal with increasingly bewildered and dependent people with compassion and dignity at the same time as mourning the loss of the person you knew. I wish you strength over the coming months – I hope you can find laughter and peace and joyous times with the Bean Counter’s mum and dad. I lost my dad a year ago and it is the happy times that shine in my memory.
Thank you. The thing we are all struggling with at the moment is our feelings of impatience, irritation and hurt brought on by some of their behaviour. Oh to be able to be serene and unaffected, unfortunately we’re human
I do so understand – I have taken to furiously crocheting to keep myself calm! It’s possible on the phone, but doesn’t work quite as well in person!
hmmm…not a bad idea. I have some knitting on the go 🙂
So sorry to hear of your double dose of pain. We are watching on the side lines as some other friends deal with this and have observed it is not easy being a grown up child with parents who are changing. We know that the Bean Counter’s family will handle this with strength and at times tears. But take time to reflect on the good times with them, look at the photos of all those times you shared and treat yourselves fairly because you ARE doing your best. Give our love to all at the Homestead and the extended family we are thinking of you. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Thanks for lots more than these lovely words xxx
So very sorry. There is no easy answer, is there? Sending prayers for wisdom from the other side of the world…
My thoughts are with you, my wife works with a lot of people who suffer with Alzheimers and dementia and I know how hard it is for everyone 😦
We are meeting many people like your wife…they are saints!
All the best wishes to you and yours. Stay strong!
There is beauty in all things. We know the dark and hold firmly to the Truth through our light.
I am so sorry to hear that. My great grandmother had Alzheimer’s and it was so difficult to watch her lose all memory, even of her son. My prayers are with you all.
Thank you, it’s amazing how good it is connect with people that have been there
Dear Sharon and all the family at the home stead…I am so sorry. This is devastating news! Both the parents is beyond any belief or understanding.
Two years ago my mother passed away. Alzheimer’s took eight years to slowly change her from a Lady in very sense of the word to a little fragile bird who could hardly talk anymore. It was cruel and heart breaking. We were all happy to take care of her, helping my father as best as we could, helping them move from the Big House to assisted living. Sometimes we all lost patience too, or had to laugh at all the shenanigans this disease brought. Best be human and honest about it!!
Not so long ago, my father passed away. Peacefully,in his sleep. I was sad but grateful!
I hope, you will have all the help you need and I know you all have each other and family bonds and love is what you and they need more than anything else!!! My loving thoughts for you all, Johanna
Thank you so much for your lovely comment, it truly does help to hear from other people who have experienced this. xxx
I hope that you can find a way to navigate through these difficult waters without breaking on the rocks.
We run aground on a regular basis in this house but always manage to refloat 🙂
Sad, very sad…fortunately she has a loving family around her. Stay strong 🙂
This totally sucks, as our kids would say. I’m glad you have each other and some extended family to support each other, and it’s great that there’s plenty of community resources to help you out – you’re going to need them. I remember the day when I realized my Mum would never be herself again, and in a split second I was not the child anymore, I was the caregiver – it was almost like a time shift in a Star Trek episode or something, which sounds a little silly, but it really felt like that. LIfe changing, even though everything around me looked the same. Geordie, huh? Tough and stubborn as they come, fortunately Bean Counter is by default, part Geordie himself and will have what it takes to cope with the difficult patches. Sending lots of hugs to each of you (only if FG has taken off her special overall smelling of billy).
Oh yes, The Bean Counter has more than a drop of Geordie in his veins 🙂 (ever seen Auf Wierderesen, Pet?)
The Bean Counter and his siblings are pretty in sync, it’s just a matter of working out who plays what role…
I’d hold off the hugs for another three weeks – that’s when Bob heads home and I’m hoping the Homestead, and everything and one in it by default, loses the faint whiff of billy.
Gosh, what a blow, not only for your poor parents but for you also. It is such a terrible, difficult disease but you have each other. I know it’s easy to say and I don’t wish to sound flippant but keep yourselves strong, for all’s sakes. Sending hugs and strength in this difficult time.X
missed reading your blog and now I know why! Lost a father in law to the dreaded Alzheimer’s two years ago.Things did not fair to well for my loved mother in law. He wrecked a car , would not and could not take his medications, tossed my mother in law out of the house and ended up getting picked up by the police before finally getting the help medication and support he needed…Long long road for your family and I wish you the very best. always remember that writing is a great out let for those pains and frustrations. It helped me get through the many trips to pick up Grandma when Grandpa was angry at her for something in his past or when he did not want some one in his house he did not know. Keep writing is helps to share the load!
Thanks so much for taking the time to comment.